I’ve known since my teens that I am an Empath. I’m very much affected by the emotions of others. I can tell when people are telling me the truth or lying. I’m also a bit psychic. My younger daughter and I especially have a connection. We joke about it, I’ll send her a text & she’ll be in the middle of texting me. I think a question at her & she texts or calls with the answer. You either believe in these things or you don’t and the purpose of this post isn’t to convince you. I found a great article about Empaths if you’re interested http://themindunleashed.com/2013/10/30-traits-of-empath.html
What got me thinking was the fact that I seem to have an easier time communicating with Ben than others do. I co-parent with his mother, my older daughter. Even though she is his mama, I’m the “primary” parent. A lot of that is because, being disabled, I’m always home. Part may be that I’m just more patient since I’m more experienced. But part may be because I’m an Empath. I’m able to have a deeper connection to him that goes beyond his autism. I’m not implying that I understand how he sees or connects with the world. I wish I could. I’d love to be able to see through his eyes. I think it’s more of a general, more intuitive sense of what he needs from me. It’s really difficult to even explain what I mean because this is all so esoteric. Mostly it’s that I just know the best way to interact with him.
It’s by no means perfect. Not. At. All. We still have our moments. He’s a kid, he comes from stubborn, opinionated people on both sides of his DNA mix & he’s high support autistic. It’s a small miracle some days that we manage to connect at all.
Anyway, the point of all this is that I do honestly think that being an Empath helps me help him. Now that I’m more aware of this I’m going to focus on using it more intentionally. I’ll let you know how that works out.