I Need Help. I Need Tape.

Reminder, remember…the fifth of November? No. It starts there though… Remember that he can’t help it.

Okay, back up. See…this is how my blog (and my mind) works. Thoughts occur and i just start typing. What I’m thinking and typing about right now is Ben and his obsessions. He gets an idea and he gets stuck on it. Seriously stuck! Once he’s stuck there’s no redirecting, no moving on, no nothing until whatever it is he wants is done. Period.

Lately he’s been stuck on two things. The movie V For Vendetta and 20th Century Fox. With V it’s the closing credits. The song, or parts of it, by The Rolling Stones Street Fighting Man is constantly coming out of his mouth. He wants me to draw the images that appear in the red slashes in the end credits on his red blocks. He wants me to write all the names of the cast and crew from the end credits. He wants me to draw the red slashes with images on paper. Over and over and over… With 20th Century Fox it’s the opening. With the dunt-dunt dunt-dunt music and the image of the searchlight. He has unscrewed all of the knobs from the cabinets in the kitchen. These must be taped to a base of blocks or several dice taped together. Onto this is taped some cylinder to represent the beam of light. Anyway, I think you get the picture.

I need to remind myself that he can’t help being obsessed with these things. I need to remind myself that he’s not asking me to do the same thing over and over to be annoying. I need to remind myself that he probably feels helpless. That he needs a three dimensional representation to hold and manipulate so he can settle it in his mind. I need to remind myself that he is a ten year old child and that he’s autistic and that his brain works differently.

I need to remind myself that this obsession will run its course and go away like the trains, Big Ben Clocks, DreamWorks Animation and every other obsession he’s had.

12 thoughts on “I Need Help. I Need Tape.

    1. It’s actually a really good movie. And we bought him a Guy Fawkes mask, which one of the main characters wears.

      He’s a very visual little guy and I’m not sure even he knows why some stuff strikes him the way it does.

      I just need to find some gosh darn patience before my damn head explodes💥😂

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  1. I can so relate – Declan is always asking me to draw something he saw on a screen. And he wants it to look the same as it did on the screen (which, I am no artist – c’mon) so he can manipulate it, or play with it, or just relive it in person. Slightly related, right now I am enjoying a banana and coffee for breakfast and making him French fries – and he is really starting to get antsy and upset because he feels they are taking too long. Part of me gets irritated at the demands, but you are right I need to remind myself the same things. And hey, I think you are doing great!

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    1. I’m no artist either. I can’t even draw a good stick figure. My younger daughter and her partner both show their artwork. I tell him ask Auntie or ask Mom. His answer, every single time “Grandma to do it”😕 and he doesn’t give up.

      I could put my foot down and refuse but it’s not a battle I’m willing to have. I save the serious “NO”s for safety matters. Like No, you may not play with the knives. No you may not play with the fire on the stove.
      I’m lucky to have this space and wonderful people like you to rant and vent to.💌💌💌

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  2. Ben could be some brilliant scientist or airplane mechanic, or who knows what? These obsessions are annoying, but it’s good that he has interests.
    You are a wonderful grandma and they are all lucky to have you.
    Sometimes i get sad cause there’s nothing I’d love more than to be a grandma. It’s not happening any time soon with all that my boys struggle with. Even at 34 and 27 , there hasn’t been any love interests for some time. But i have to remember, it’s their life, not mine.
    Have faith that Ben grows out of this phase. And I’m glad us peeps on WordPress can keep you sane.

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    1. Thanks Teri😘😍 I was thinking along the same lines about Ben’s possible future employment. Maybe something in engineering or graphics… he’s always been very visual, looking at things from different angles… It’s just frustrating to do the same project over and over, watch him take it apart or leave it lying around, then do it all again. Sigh…this too shall pass 😉
      I *wish* I could be a traditional grandma. I’m more like his primary care taker. I’d love to hang out with him, spoil him then send him home. Not that I’d ever trade that for the relationship I have with him now. He’s my Babylove! (even though he’s often Mr Bootyhead 😂)
      WP has saved my sanity for sure! You and all my WP family are so cherished! I’d love to give you all big hugs 💖💌💖💌💖💌💖


  3. You’re doing a great job – he’s a lucky young man to have you give him this support. I hope you manage to find some time out for you, though. 🙂

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