Where’s my cape?


(Originally published back in June of 2016. Rather than whine about how life has been tossing bananas peels in my path the past week or so, I thought I’d dust off an oldie that I like. It only got a few views when my blog was still young and inexperienced, I wanted to show it some more love ๐Ÿ˜˜)


I’m a superhero. I want a sexy costume with a cape and some kick-ass boots. I need a cool name too. My super power is being every thing to everybody.

When I was a kid my single mom & her various boyfriends made me responsible for my brother who is three years younger. I was seven & taking care of my four year old brother. I also did laundry & washed dishes starting at around seven.

Then later in high school I got a full time job so I could have a car and after 18 pay to continue having a roof over my head. After high school I got a second job and moved out.

Then I met the ex. I was 18, he was 27 and twice divorced. But, since I was a codependent mess, I was thrilled to be wanted by this man. We were together 22 years and had 2 daughters. He was an abusive alcoholic. There were stretches of sobriety. Once for 8 years so it wasn’t always bad. But I took care of him along with the kids, plus worked full time and did activism too. PTA, political groups, native rights (the ex is native), grassroots organizations against police brutality… All that stuff.

Then came pain, numbness and weakness. Work comp injury from repetitive stress. Surgeries, fighting insurance companies, pain and medication issues finally all ending in total disability.

I’m trying to keep this brief…

Anyway, the ex couldn’t handle me not taking care of everything as well as I used to and dealt with his issues by drinking. Instant rage monster. It took years before it could be safely ended. Eventually he was on a Greyhound Bus back to Indiana & I was being evicted for non payment. Older daughter was pregnant & younger daughter had dropped out of middle school.ย  I was a disabled mess with no income & no car. I had my SSDI hearing, Older Daughter had The King and Younger Daughter found a school she could handle. We all dealt with our PTSD as best we could.

Now, Younger Daughter is in college to get her teaching degree, Older Daughter is a CNA and we are trying to get The King the help he needs. Autism & ADHD make life challenging.

So, to sum it all up, I’ve been a super sister, a super spouse, a super mother, a super citizen, a super patient, a super survivor, a super grandma and a super advocate. I’m a superhero and I want my cape!

(featured image is Ben’s Pink Kitty and three of his favorite Hello Kitty friends)

35 thoughts on “Where’s my cape?

  1. Thank you for sharing your story!

    It’s admirable for a woman while going thru her own mess and still take care of her children.

    You are a Wonder Woman! Do you really need a cape? ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. Thank you!๐ŸŒป I guess since I won’t be posing for any pictures,๐Ÿฆธโ€โ™€๏ธ I won’t be needing a cape to flutter fetchingly in the breeze๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ And since I trip over my own feet walking, I think flying is definitely out of the question๐Ÿคช๐Ÿคฃ

      Happy New Year!๐Ÿ€ ๐ŸŽ†๐ŸŽŠ(no rat emoji๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ, only mouse…โ˜น)

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    1. Thank you๐Ÿ˜Š It has definitely been an adventurous life๐Ÿ™„ On the plus side, I’m not really afraid of anything because I’ve already been through a lot of stuff. Except those giant cockroaches… those critters freak me out๐Ÿ˜ฑ

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    1. Awww…thank you!๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜ And I wonder how you manage with 3 kids (or 4๐Ÿ˜‰) and their activities and Cate & Declan’s additional challenges…
      I guess all parents are superheroes๐Ÿฆธโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿฆธโ€โ™‚๏ธ! We do what we have to do๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ’Œ

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    1. It’s been improving since Wednesday. I actually dragged (drug?) my rear end out and got new tires on the car yesterday๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ˜‚
      Groceries and laundry today. Real superhero work๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿผโค

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    1. Yeah, the Zen took a time out. It wasnt completely lost, just paused for a few days. Unfortunately, life doesnt pause so I’m playing catch up on all the REAL superhero work…new tires on the car, groceries, laundry…๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿผ

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  2. If you get the costume please take some photos. I really hope those bananas stop appearing. Even the greatest super heroes need a bit of luck and good fortune. Sending you hugs. Just remember not to crush me as Iโ€™m a mortal. The only Yorkshire super heroes I can think of are the current Dr Who and the original Professor X.

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    1. Things have been getting better. I even managed to go get new tires put on my car yesterday๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿผ I lead a very exciting life๐Ÿ˜‚
      Thank you for the hugs!๐ŸŒป I gratefully accept them and send them back your way (no worries about getting crushed, I only go Hulk when I’m angry๐Ÿ˜‰)๐Ÿ’Œ
      I have a picture somewhere of me wearing my Batman onesie pajamas. Does that count as superhero gear?๐Ÿ˜‚

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      1. Question would be would you wear that for the next Justice League movie? Yes I guess the practicalities of life has rather constrained our rock and roll lifestyles. But it is what it is. We have an overriding job to do, probably for years to come. So we make the best of it. Whatโ€™s going to be your next life highlight? x


  3. How about Super Grandma Empath Angie ? It’s direct, straight fowards and accurate – you don’t need a cape – most super heroes never do – but well done.

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