If you missed the start of this series, you can find it here. A lot of things will be the same or very similar.
We got Ben to bed with only minor issues. Then it was sunset time.
I was ready to go to bed at 10pm, but I heard Ben laughing in his room. Then he was playing loudly. I took my pill around 10:45 because he had quieted down. Then at 11:30 he got up to use the bathroom. I told him it wasn’t morning, he needed to sleep. I put him back in bed and turned the AC unit in his window down to 65°. He had three blankets he must have, in a certain order, over him. I thought if it was cooler in his room that might help. He was still making noise at midnight but I was on my way out…
He got me up at 6:30. I went to the living room as commanded and was getting his meds ready when Daughter came down the hall. She was indignant, like how dare I get up and get his meds ready. It wasn’t my fault she didn’t hear him get up or yell for me to get up. She nudged me out of the way and took over. Okay, sure… whatever. I got a cup of coffee and was met by Zeus and Ben, already in my room.
Ben was having issues with his ADHD again and also with his body. He was throwing himself onto my bed, then rolling off onto the floor. I asked him if he wanted me to “squish” him, he said no.
Weight on his body sometimes helps, but he doesnt like the weighted blanket we got him, so sometimes I’ll lay across him or on top of him, bracing myself so it’s not my full weight, and “squish” him.
He spent a lot of the morning going back and forth between my room and the living room, where Daughter was. He did a lot of throwing himself around and a lot of scripting with “angry words”.
Daughter went to her room around 12:45. I expected Ben to immediately ask (tell) me to come to the living room. I think he waited five minutes.
He was calmer in the living room. He sat next to me and watched his tablet. Zeus got jealous of Ben being so close, so he had to get up on the end of the chaise, under my legs. He and Zeus both moved after a while, it gets too hot, especially for me, with us all crammed together.
When the 2:30 med alarm went off I was not surprised. Ben had been doing his “angry words” for a few minutes. (I don’t even know what the words are, something he mispronounces and adds sounds to. They are two “words” he says back and forth like an argument. Like you’d hear “Yes, you did” and “No, I didn’t” getting louder and more vehemently venomous) I gave him his meds and asked him not to do the “angry words”. He said okay and started up again. I told him if he kept saying the words, I was going to go to my room, they hurt my ears. He stopped, then started whispering, then getting louder. I started to get up, so he stopped again. I told him the words hurt my ears, I could go to my room, or he could go to his room, but I didn’t want to hear the words. He was okay for about fifteen seconds and he started again. I got up and told him I was going, to let me know when he was done and I’d come back. I told him I wasn’t upset or angry at him, that if he needed to say the angry words it was okay, but I didn’t want to hear them. They hurt my ears. He said “All done.” and was able to stop.
When he starts with those words, back and forth, he ramps himself up. It starts with the words and then goes to physical acts, like stabbing boxes. I understand he needs to let off steam sometimes but I think he needs to learn that pressure releases can be uncomfortable to other people. I really don’t like the tension of him ramping up like that. He gets louder and louder, and his tone gets mean… it grates on my nerves.
Daughter came back out around 3:15 to take over Living Room Duty. Ben was back and forth between the living room and my room. ADHD overdrive as usual in the late afternoon/early evening. He went outside for a while and I thought that was good until he started trying to bust up the cinderblocks of the wall on the property line. The past few days he just doesn’t know what to do with himself. We give him options but he wants to do things he’s not supposed to. I think that’s typical of ALL kids.
We’re coming into countdown time. Daughter is getting ready to cook and Ben’s first med will be around 5:30-5:45. She doesn’t have work tonight, she goes back tomorrow (Friday) night. Her BFF, who is also Ben’s Godmother is coming over to hang out this evening. Her other friend is coming over for a bit too.
I better hit publish and prepare myself for the onslaught. It gets really noisy with all three of them chattering and Ben is already hyper.
Thank you, as always for stopping by. Tomorrow will be a busy day with Daughter going back to work and laundry (you know you wanna be here for laundry day) and the full report on Daughter’s friends, and the sunset of course. We’ll also have our regular Adventures or whatever life throws at us. So come on back tomorrow, coffee will be waiting…