If you missed the start of this series, you can find it here. A lot of things will be the same or very similar.
Daughter made “white chicken” for Ben last night. When it was time to run his bath, I was taking pictures so Daughter did it. I brought him in from outside because that’s his game now. Bath time, dinner time, whatever = run away. He has always been an eloper. It’s a game, making someone come get him.
I continued taking pictures, doing Sciencey Stuff, but I could hear that Daughter and Ben were arguing. He came running past me half undressed. Daughter had gotten the jacket, tie, vest and button down shirt off him, but he was still wearing the long pants, socks and shoes. I brought him back in, got the rest of the clothes off him and sent him to the bathroom.
I was getting ready to do more Science and watch for Parrots when I heard Ben scream in his Angry Voice “Gramma to do it!”. Daughter yelled back “Fine! Grandma can do it!” Great… I put my phone away and went to bathe the mawster.
After he was clean and playing, I went back to see if there was any visible Sun left. Not really. I’d missed it. Par for the course of the day. I cleaned up the dominoes, chalk and various other scattered stuff, then I covered Sven and edited the pictures I’d taken. Daughter put Ben to bed, then went to her room.
I did my Night Stuff, cleaned up the mess that Daughter hadn’t bothered with, grabbed the food she’d made for me (a soup with chicken broth, chicken, carrots, celery, onions, heavy cream, parmesan cheese and cheese tortellini), turned off the AC and opened the windows. I wrote and read email, did some WP stuff and worked on putting the day behind me.
Eventually I ate and took my pill. It was probably sometime around 11pm, I don’t know for sure, nor do I know when I konked out.
Ben was up before the sun again. He was wiggling under my blankets when Daughter said “Good Morning.” from my door. I stayed in bed. She was up, she could take care of Ben.
I should’ve just gotten up. I dozed but Ben was very hyper again and he kept Bouncing me. Maybe he thought the bedquakes would be soothing, like rocking a baby to sleep. I have doubts because one of the times he Bounced me, he jammed his elbow into my sore spot. Kid has perfect aim… gotta give him that. I yelled… it hurt, I couldn’t help it. Reminded me of when my ex would wake me up, by hitting me with a pillow over and over, so he could yell at me for something or the other.
A little while later Ben decided it would be hysterical to roar at top volume, right into my ear. When I told him to stop and covered my ear with my hand, he pulled my hand away and roared again. I told him he was hurting me and he laughed. Daughter had come to see what was going on. He roared again and ran off.
Just as I was dozing back off, she came and asked me if I smelled something buring. I didn’t, but I gave up and got up. It was 7:15am.
I got coffee, and uncovered and fed Sven. He made a mess and missed his target as usual, then went to his rock.
Ben had been outside in his dirt hole, but must’ve sensed when I got up and started moving around cuz he came back inside to Bounce me, making me spill the coffee I was taking a drink of. Luckily it had cooled off a little bit.
At 9:30 Daughter asked Ben if he wanted to talk to his teachers, if he wanted to sit in the Chair Of Zoom. He ran off to the bathroom. She encouraged him to try to poop. We’re still trying to get him to get it out.
He didn’t try, and he didn’t Zoom. He had Zooms scheduled for 9:30, 10:30 and 11:30 today. Around 10:00 I went to ask Daughter what the plan was for taking Ben to get shot. She told me she was gonna try to get him to Zoom at least once. She had given him a stimulant laxative this morning, so she was kinda waiting to see if that had any effect. Her paycheck had been deposited to her account (Hallelujah! Good news!) and she needed to do some laundry. We talked about the fact that Vons is open until 8pm so we can take Ben in anytime. I told her that she needed to call and make sure they got the delivery, that they have the med. She said she would call. The rest of the stuff we’d see how things went. A lot depended on Ben and his mood.
He was in the dirt hole at 10:30, so no Zooming. He came insideq about five minutes later. I talked to him about using the baรฑo and that he would feel better after. He didn’t respond. He was busy playing with Zeus and giving me bedquakes. Daughter brought meds at 10:45.
Just before 11:00 Ben left and went back to the living room. He didn’t Zoom at 11:30. I guess Daughter decided that she wasn’t going to push it. After the day we had yesterday, I fully supported that decision. He was doing his chalk thang and he doesn’t like being interrupted. I was lucky he had just started when I needed to use the baรฑo, I was able to get him to scoot (he likes the light from the skylight) so I could close the door.
Ben came in to hang out on my bed with me several times throughout the afternoon. At 1pm I hollered out the med alarm and Daughter brought meds to him in my room. Shortly after taking the meds he went back to the living room for a while. Around 2pm Daughter came into my room and handed me her phone. I knew she was ordering food and handing me the menu. It was Applebees. I ordered three cheese penne with grilled chicken. I won’t have to figure out what to eat tonight. After placing the order, she called the pharmacy to make sure the shot medication had arrived and to schedule a time slot. The medication was there and we were scheduled between 4:30pm and 5:00pm.
Ben brought his tablet, Oreos and Peppa Pig phone and Bounced onto my bed. I hollered out the 2:30pm med alarm. The food was delivered around 2:45. I ate my breadstick cuz they put it on top of the pasta, it would’ve been soggy. It’s a good thing I always add more cheese to all pasta dishes cuz the container I got looks like they put plain penne in it, then plopped a glob of sauce, put the chicken and some diced tomatoes and parsley on the glob and sent it off. I like my pasta to have sauce on all of it. Maybe I’m just weird. Well, I am weird, but I meant about the way I like my pasta.
We need to get ready and get Ben ready to go get his shot. He’s not good about wearing a mask, hopefully it won’t be a problem. We haven’t really taken him out anywhere in over six months. We rarely took him places before that. It’s difficult for us to control him at home, out in public… it was hard when he was little and we could carry him.
The past couple of days have seen me in a melancholy mood. I’m not sad, not really, and nothing is wrong. Maybe it’s the changing seasons, maybe Daughter is hormonal on I’m picking up on it, maybe the entire Earth is sad and I feel that. I’m very content with my life. I’d love more ME time, but it will come. My Zen is intact… but sometimes… sometimes… yeah.
Thanks for stopping by and hanging out. I’ll tell you about Ben’s shot tomorrow. It will either go well or it will be a disaster. We will be doing a little shopping while we’re out too. Daughter goes back to work tomorrow night, so I’ll be Driving Miss Daisy. We’ll also be doing laundry. Will I see the Quarter Lady? Come hang out with us, join our adventures. ยกHasta maรฑana!
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Cool story! I like Sven! Seems like a rambunctious fellow…
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Thanks! Rambunctious is one word for it๐๐
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Me too! I like lots of sauce on my pasta the way I like lots of fixins on my potato! ๐. Hope all goes well this evening, with the shot and Everything ๐๐ซ๐๐ฆ๐ค๐ซ
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It was good and bad, like everything else Casa Cuckoo related๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
I’m glad I’m not the only one with the pasta sauce. Like this emoji๐… NOPE! dry noodles and a blob of sauce in the middle? First I’m gonna mix it up, then I’m gonna put๐ง on it!!๐คค
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Yes, nothing worse then sauceless pasta! Hope your shot adventure is a positive one. Melancholy is okay. Itโs good to be open to all the seasons of emotion. Hope Ben has a good poop soon. Itโs hard for them not to be wired when their backed up. Iโm secretly hoping the quarter lady is in the next episode of King Ben. ๐
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I’ll include some back story the next time she & I meet๐๐๐
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Oh my! My fingers and toes are all double and triple crossed. I hope things go okay with the shot!
I’m like you. Melancholic. Well, today was a tough day. Put that on melancholic and it was just bad. I’m ready for a fresh new day.
Here’s hoping everything went well with the shot, the night went well and tomorrow is amazing! We could use an amazing day!
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I’m sorry your day was yucky tooโน We definitely could use some amazing!! ๐ค๐ค
The shot, like everything was a rollercoaster ride… good & bad. We survived and lived to tell the tale. And it’s done. Now, if he’d poop๐… parenting these guys is not for the squeamish ๐๐๐
Sending Hugs & hopes for fantastic Friday!๐ค๐ฅฐ๐ค๐ค๐
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Today seemed better than yesterday, so thatโs good. Hope the shot goes well and so does the shopping trip. All the best my friend
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It was better, yes… Not as chill ad Tuesday, but I didnt get punched, so definitely better!๐ The shot was good & bad. We take the Cuckoo with us when we leave the Casa.
I hope your Friday is going good!๐
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Thanks Angie. Sweet dreams.
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Fully understand the melancholy thing. One thing I do have now is me time – just need to get my head around the idea of doing something with it!
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I was talking to Younger Daughter and telling her when Ben goes back to school I’ll probably just sleep.๐๐
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Oh, I’m all about the extra sauce. I can’t stand it when they bring out what feels like five pounds of drying-out pasta with only a tiny dash of liquid. I’m not putting that in my mouth, nope… ๐
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I guess I’ve truly found my “tribe”… everyone who has stated a preference agrees with me. We’ve bonded over pasta sauce… it beautiful ๐ข๐
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Yes definitely melancholy here as well. xx
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We all seem to be feeling it. The change in seasons maybe, the frustrations with school definitely… lack of good sleep and not being able to enjoy the things we like to do…
We’ll keep each other going until we’re all dancing again!๐๐ผ๐ถ๐ค๐ฅฐ๐๐
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I look forwards to the days and weeks and months and years that you get you time as well. A break from the madness is sorely needed and more so than being sorely kneed.
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Everything is all set for the Glorious Little Yellow School Bus to come Monday morning. He’s supposed to be going on Mondays and Tuesdays. It doesn’t feel real yet.
I’ll probably use my “free time” to sleep๐ด๐ด๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ
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…………… and sleep, and sleep……… and sleep ๐
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The sunsets are pretty. I get the mood swings. You have been a trooper for over 6 months. It’s hard to know how long this virus and life like this will last. It’s an unknown.
You have a good attitude and are staying strong. Obviously, Ben’s howling in your ear is unacceptable. I don’t even like the bed quakes. I know you are trying to keep the peace, but he needs to get the message loud and clear, no yelling in people’s ears. I’m guessing time outs just cause more bad behavior. And I’m sure if you knew how to get him to stop, he would have stopped by now.
Hang in there.
Quiet weekend here
Teri
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There is no way to put Ben in time out. There are very few consequences that are effective. Mostly I just go away from him when he’s like that. It sucks leaving my own room but๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ “severe” autism is tough.
Things have been a little calmer the past couple days… thank goodness!๐
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