If you missed the start of this series, you can find it here. A lot of things will be the same or very similar.
Ben started getting a little amped up as the sun went down. For whatever reason, med lapse or the changing of the light, or just because, Ben often has trouble at sunset. He was stabbing boxes and banging into things, not being “bad”, but putting off an edgy vibe. Daughter was cooking his steak and she gave it to him around 5:15pm. I took my pictures and stayed out of the way.
Ben ate pretty quickly, he was hungry, then came to hang out in my room. I decided to try to prevent the getting out of the tub argument we seem to have on Work Nights by running his bath early. I brushed and rebraided his hair, then ran the bath. It took several prompts to get him headed toward the bathroom.
Daughter gave him his meds on the way, then he got distracted by a DC Pictures logo he just HAD to create. Daughter and I spent fifteen minutes trying to get him to put it down and get in the dang bathtub. He ignored us and kept messing around. It became a ridiculous power struggle, and Daughter was escalating it. I stopped her, and made her angry, cuz we still needed to drive her to work, and pushing this situation into a full on battle would’ve been stupid. I finally got him into the tub around 5:45pm. So much for trying to start early and prevent a battle.
He got out on time, and on his own. I showered him with praise. We got him dressed and when it was time to go he started messing with the dang DC logo thing again. GRRRR! We got Daughter to work on time, but it was a frustrating struggle every step of the way.
Ben and I went back home and I got him and Zeus settled in bed, then texted Daughter to let her know we made it home okay.
The usual Things and Stuff followed. I ate my food around 10:30pm and the Food Coma hit immediately. I didn’t even take my pills. I woke up around 2:15am, realized I hadn’t taken the meds and decided to go ahead and take them. It was kinda late, but I didn’t want to be waking up every hour, I needed sleep!
The 6am alarm woke me. I get up a half hour before I need to wake Ben for meds on the days I need to get Daughter, so I can use the baño in peace and have a chance to wake up at my own pace. I got up, let Zeus out and did my thing.
I woke Ben at 6:30, gave him his meds and went to look at the sky. Sunrise was meh and it was cold outside… 37°F (3°C). I took a couple pictures and went to warm up. Ben stayed in his bed, which was fine. I told him we had to go get Mom in a little while, but he could stay in bed til then if he wanted to. He said “No bus today” and I told him he was correct, only picking Mom up from work.
I went back out to see the Sun rise above the horizon and that’s when Georgie and Gracie came by. They were flying high and headed north. I said Good Morning to them, and they circled around. They never landed, but they came a little lower and circled a few times. Then Ben was standing behind me in just his PJs and no slippers, shivering. I said Goodbye to Georgie and Gracie, then took Ben inside.
We left on time to get Daughter. She was waiting for us when we got there, she got in and said hello to Ben, then immediately started venting about work. She had the same needy patients, plus a heartbreaking new one. An eighty-seven year old woman who was brought in by paramedics when neighbors saw her crawling through the mud in front of her house. Come to find out, her son was supposed to be caring for her but he was just spending her money and neglecting her. She was malnourished, had no water or utilities… thank goodness the neighbors called. The son has been arrested and Social Services has stepped in, but this is another pandemic related issue IMO. As decent, caring humans, we need to check on our elderly or disabled neighbors. Now, more than ever, vulnerable people are isolated.
Anyway, we got home and settled in. Daughter told me she had to stay awake this morning to Zoom Ben’s IEP. WHAT?! I have been at every IEP (Individual Education Plan) meeting since preschool. This was the first I was hearing about the meeting. I admit I felt a little hurt at being excluded. I felt like my place and contributions in Ben’s life were being ignored, that I was being unacknowledged. I actually hate sitting through the hour, sometimes two hours, meetings every year, but I wasn’t given the option this time. I was needed to sit with Ben. And in reality, Daughter is the one with the legal rights. I am just the Gramma.
So I did Couch Sittin Duty and Daughter Zoomed with his teacher, his Speech and Occupational Therapists, and representatives from our home district, to discuss his progress and his goals for next year.
Almost two hours later Daughter came out to the living room. I told her she didn’t need to tell me about it now, just go sleep. I knew she was tired. She snapped at me that she was coming out to pee, they didn’t even get to the IEP, just spent two hours discussing the assessments. They have another Zoom scheduled for the eighth at 8:30am to do the IEP. Then she started crying and apologizing for snapping. I told her it was okay, I understood she was tired. I told her to go sleep, everything was okay.
Ben and I just hung out. He did the usual things and I did the usual things and nothing very exciting happened. Daughter got up at 3:15pm and took over Couch Sittin Duty, I went and Gathered my Data for the Science Project.
I was going to get Horizontal but I had meds for Ben that needed to be picked up. I changed shoes, changed hoodies and masked up. Daughter called while I was out and wanted me to get her more cough drops and more wine. Two stops then. I got the stuff for Daughter then went to get the meds. A quick trip took me forty-five minutes. When I got home Daughter said that the one med that he needed wasn’t there. WHAT?! She said there were refills on the prescription. I asked if she’d called it in? Did she get a notification that it was ready? No and No. JIMINY CRICKET ON A MOTORSCOOTER! She called in the refill request and it will be ready tomorrow morning. We have the half dose he takes at 6:30am. So we should be able to pick it up as soon as the pharmacy opens. I say we, but mean “I”.
Time for sunset, time to manage Ben, time to get through one more night of Driving Miss Daisy.
Word associations… I was reading a posted response to Rory’s Twelve Questions, one of them being something you can ride in or on, and I thought of a Magic Carpet, then of course, this song…
Not much excitement today. A whole lot of Couch Sittin Duty. A visit from the Georgie and Gracie was nice. Tomorrow will be whatever it will be. I never know what I’m doing, I just keep zombie shuffling along, laughing at all the ridiculous things. Fortunately things are often ridiculous. ¡Hasta mañana!